Threesome with my girlfriend and my mate made me realise I don’t measure up
DEAR DEIDRE: I REALISED I don’t measure up when my girlfriend cried out with pleasure while having sex with my mate during a threesome.
I’m 26 and she is 24. We’ve been together for three years.
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We met in a café when the barista got our coffees muddled up — we laughed about it and got chatting and she was so easy to talk to. I could tell she liked me, so I asked her out on a date.
We moved in together for lockdown and both ended up being furloughed. There was lots of sex, and a lot of TV, to start with.
But after a few weeks, things got a bit dull. We were arguing over who could do our weekly shop or who would put the bins out, so something had to change.
I’m a mechanic and there is a mate I work with who is a real ladies’ man. He’s 29 and looks after himself.
He’s eternally single because he likes going out on the pull too much.
He had called round to drop off some papers from work and I could see my girlfriend giving him the eye. I gave him a beer then one beer turned into two before my girlfriend cooked for us.
She and he were flirting a lot and she took me to one side and suggested we have a threesome.
I said I didn’t mind, so while she went upstairs I put it to him and his eyes lit up.
We went to our bedroom and I started kissing my girlfriend while my mate rubbed her back.
We got into bed and when it was my mate’s turn, he dropped his Calvin Kleins and my girlfriend looked delighted. They started to get down to it.
His manhood was double the size of mine. My girlfriend moaned and screamed and grabbed the headboard. I’d never heard her make that sound before.
I felt so jealous. Now my confidence is rock-bottom.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Involving others in your sex life often brings risks of it all going horribly wrong. And these days you are at risk of catching or passing on Covid, so do not chance that again.
You are fretting your relationship is now under threat. But has it occurred to you your girlfriend’s cries may have been because she was feeling uncomfortable? A very large penis can cause pain during intercourse.
Great sex is not a given just because a man is well endowed.
The considerate lover will always win. You do not mention your girlfriend wanting to repeat the experience.
Tell her how threatened you feel, because I think she will reassure you if your relationship is generally strong.
Say you now reckon the threesome was a mistake – you never really wanted to share her and you would like to keep your sex life special and exclusive.
My e-leaflets Manhood Too Small? and How To Thrill A Woman In Bed should help.