How to Get a Threesome

Most men have thought about it at some point, only to have quickly disregarded the notion as an impossibility (at least for them):

That romantic notion of just the three of you, alone, and sharing some private time together.

Okay, I’ll admit it... you never really think of a threesome as a romantic thing; but a man can dream, right?

If you’re like most men, the first time you find yourself in a threesome is so unreal that it becomes a “spectator” moment, you sit back and take a look at yourself and your life and say, “Hey, I am not doing too bad after all!” So it is no surprise then that you mess up the real opportunities that come along because your head is in the clouds... instead of where it needs to be.

There are a few key things to keep in mind when it comes to learning how to get a threesome, and if you don’t know what those key things are yet, don’t worry - because you can learn them, and live the dream.

To most guys, the threesome is the epitome of validation; the time the universe smiles back and says, “This one is on me, you brilliant, shining, example of a man! You have put up with my garbage long enough and I’ve decided it’s time I chuck you a bone.”

But the truth of a threesome is that it isn’t THAT big of a deal... especially if you know how to translate opportunities into a good time.

We all want to revel in our well-earned deserts and to thank the world for finally giving back, but this revelry is a symptom of an underlying doubt in yourself and the result of not having shaken yourself free from your illusion that threesomes are unusual or hard to come by. You haven’t yet awoken to the idea that you actually CAN make threesomes attractive to women with a little bit of work getting your head straight on the matter.

How to Think About the Threesome

When out and about in clubs and bars we have all seen our fair share of girl-on-girl dancing, even some girl-on-girl kissing here and there. We watch on as the girls really “stir up the crowd”, and as every guy around them hollers and throws validation and attention that way.

It’s no wonder that we see threesomes as “hard” when almost every male EVER seems to throw his wits out the window when he sees just a little girl-on-girl action.

It is ALSO no wonder, then, that the answer to how to get a threesome is to NOT act like all the other guys... but to keep a level head when talking about threesomes and their very real possibility in a guy’s life.

As men, we shoot ourselves in the foot; we make threesomes harder than they need to be. Tell me, why we are so disbelieving that two girls could kiss and like it?

Tell me why we get so carried away when two girls start kissing in front of us?

Is it because we confuse the visual with a chance to be a part of it? Is it because we assume the “slut level” on the girls is so high that we are bound to get some residual pity sex points?

The truth is guys lose their cool when two girls touch each other: we get prone to label women as slutty (a bad thing to do to any girl), and we take our value as men with MINDS out of the equation.

We just let all our composure fly away and become useless heaps of meat hoping to be used and abused by the tornado that is two girls kissing.

The biggest step in getting that threesome you always wanted is to take your power back! Let me share with you a little secret to help you gain a little more composure when faced with a threesome opportunity. Exhibitionism is one of the most common “kink streaks” out there, and often it can be satisfied without any serious emotional consequences, by having public sex or a threesome here and there. As a result of this kink streak, some girls are plainly okay with just kissing a friend or stroking a friend so long as it’s under the guise of “good fun” and “girls being girls”. As easy it is for a girl to have sex with you on the beach, is about as easy as it is for a girl to kiss you while her friend holds you down. Exhibitionism is totally normal, and threesomes don’t need to be made into any kind of bigger deal than the exploration of those desires.

Contrary to what you might initially expect as a hot-blooded male in pursuit of liberating a fantasy from your imagination, to get a threesome you can’t just bash two girls together when the “slut level” is high enough that they “won’t mind”.

That might work with prostitutes, but with everyday girls it is just not going to fly.

But don’t worry; there is a way to seduce two girls into the same bedroom and build up attraction in a way that persuades both girls that the thrill for the night will be best shared together.

Ultimately, there is one attitude that turns threesome opportunities into success stories, but instead of telling you about that attitude, I’m going to stop with the preaching, trust you have a head on your shoulders and get straight to the tips that will help you develop it.

How to Get a Threesome

There are four (4) core tips here I’m going to cover:

1. Allow the girls to guide you and support you so you aren’t doing twice the work

2. Forget the visuals and build the anticipation and good feelings instead

3. Make sure both girls feel confident when you are teasing other girls by keeping some mystery

4. Make it feel like no big deal by teasing them or making them forget convention

Let’s have a closer look at each in the sections below.

Allow the Girls to Guide and Support You

My first tip to guys seeking the threesome is to use “numbers” to your advantage. The other girl isn’t a third wheel; she is an asset at keeping your girl comfortable and zest of the moment high.

Girls are usually sexually comfortable with each other: they tell each other intimate details about all the kinds of sex they’ve ever had, and as a result know each other pretty much inside and out when it comes to fantasies and desires... so who better than her friend to keep her turned on and the energy good for the whole night?

Treat her friend right so that you have her behind you pushing actions ahead so that her friend is shining bright the whole night. Enlisting the help of the other girl will make the whole time run by a lot smoother. In short, allow the girls to guide you and support you so you aren’t doing twice the work.

Quit Focusing on the Visual

My second tip to guys is “stop focusing on the visual”.

Often we get so focused on the girls kissing or something that we try to get that to happen on command. If you try to force girls to do things, they are not going to listen to you. Most men fail at threesomes because they fail to remember that women don’t turn into men just because another girl is present; they always need to be seduced.

Focus on letting sexual appetites roll over into foreplay, teasing and playing around. Try not to hunt for symbols of consent such as “now you two should kiss”; women always change their minds, and if you are foolish enough try forcing girls to do what they do not feel like doing it is going to be a bad time.

Try not to think about getting those things to happen; just try focusing on how to make the threesome to be really good!!! Threesomes work best when you want everything they do to be a pleasure and for their actions to be surrounded by a great atmosphere.

Don’t control and manipulate the threesome; spark it, inspire it, play within it and don’t ever scare anyone away by pushing it.

Forget the visuals, and build the anticipation and good feelings instead.

Keep Some Mystery; Keep Your Girls Guessing

My third tip to guys is that when things are happening with two girls do not remove plausible deniability.

Keep the girls GUESSING as to whether you are into this going down.

When it comes to which girl you like, say something like “let’s just all have fun for now”. The truth is that if you can keep two girls laughing you can keep two girls good and happy in the bedroom with a little bit of improvisation. The only indicator that you like a girl should be that you are touching her, and if both girls are okay with you flirting with and touching the other, then you know you’re doing it right.

If you want a technique that displays how to do this, try combining your actions in a flirtatious way to involve both of them. When you take off one girl’s top, make it seem funny to the other girl by turning around and blindfolding her with it next.

Make sure both girls feel confident when you are with other girls.

Make It No Big Deal

My fourth “how to get a threesome” tip is to tempt THEM to WORK TOGETHER on YOU.

Rather than forcing them to be interested in each other, make them conspire to join forces against you!

The best way to do that is to actually tease them both and get them to want to “playfully fight back” and “get even”. Nothing keeps spirits higher in a threesome or more-some than playing a game of “getting them back”. Keep it not too serious or rigid, and make sure to go and get refreshments at the right times and make the whole deal not a big serious emotional thing.

In the end, a threesome should be like a party: you host it, you spark enthusiasm, and you allow inhibitions to be tossed to the wind as everyone has a good time.

Threesome Tip Summary

A quick summary:

1. Allow the girls to guide you and support you so you aren’t doing twice the work

2. Forget the visuals and build the anticipation and good feelings instead

3. Make sure both girls feel confident when you are teasing other girls by keeping some mystery

4. Make it feel like no big deal by teasing them or making them forget convention

In short, don’t be startled by two women, and let it truly become fun! Threesomes are enjoyable, and if your mind is aimed at discovering that to be true, you will do better than if you have already made up your mind that they are the be all and end all of existence.

Ultimately, it is all just about having a good time, and that can be had with one girl or two, so long as YOU don’t change too much and can keep your cool.

To give you an example of how this all works, I’ll give you a short little story of a guy I know.

A friend of mine went out on a Sunday night to meet a girl he got the number of the night before, and when arriving to the club, the girl ran from him into a group of guys and held onto a girl friend. At first, he was put off and kind of freaked out and thought about leaving. Some guy came up to him and put his arm around him, and he seemed nice enough. He talked with this guy a while to shelter from his embarrassment, only to soon be propositioned for some gay sex. My friend recoiled: “Hold on... what?” He looked around the bar to notice all the gay men there that night, and said, “Whoa, this is gay night?! Ha-ha! Oh dude I’m sorry I have got to go.”

Laughing humbly out of that awkward scenario, he walked up to the girls. The girl he had got the number of the night before ignored him, and all he could think of doing was to turn to her girl friend. When he turned to her she said, “We’re lesbians.”

He nodded for a moment and kind of smiled. “Oh I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have made out with your girl then,” he said. He kissed his date’s girl friend, as his original date was turned away at the bar. His date turned around to squealing as my friend had then picked the girl up and was spinning her around.

“Put her down,” she said.

“Oh, hey,” he replied, and smiled back at her before putting the girl down, “I was just saying hello to your undercover lover here.”

“She has a boyfriend you know!” his date said. The guy noted that they were both equally full of BS and gave her a smile.

The situation was that he was with two girls he had kissed, one the night before and one just before, so obviously they liked him. What he couldn’t be sure of was if the first girl even liked him anymore, or was trying to blow him off.

Later on, the girl he initially got the number off of opened up to him again, and remembered who he was; “Finally, you remember!” he joked, and they organised to walk to another club together.

It was during that walk he realised that a threesome was possible.

He found himself in a strange position where both girls independently had kissed him, yet had not done so together. Both girls held his hand but seemed oblivious to the fact that the other girl was holding his hand also.

They both had attitude and would not make it easy, so where could he go from here?

He tried to hint at the obvious situation, but quickly backed off when the girls reacted as if his suggestion was vulgar. He was like most men in this situation: he felt trapped, and thought that maybe if he could get them to kiss each other, then they would do all the work and the universe would throw him a bone.

Eventually, in a moment of brilliance, he told one girl to pull the other girl close to him. The girl grabbed her friend, and he then said, “Okay, now push her into me so she has no choice but to kiss me.” Both the girls were flabbergasted and broke with smiles at how confident he was. He then said, “See now, that is the girl I remember,” and stroked the girl’s hair, making it seem as if he was really just making the situation for everyone more fun.

After both girls were smiling at being a part of this display of charm, he pulled the other girl back to his other arm, and suggested that they get off the street for a few drinks at a hotel room.

Once they were all in the hotel room together, he didn’t make sex the main agenda, and soon enough managed to have one snuggling on him, whilst the other one poured drinks. He whispered into her ear a plan to get the other girl to relax and she nodded. When the other girl came over with the drinks, the girl pinned her down and said, “Okay, now!” and he kissed her. They all took turns teasing each other, and voilà: a threesome was born.

Wrap Up for “How to Get a Threesome”

Threesomes aren’t always black and white; sometimes it is about using what you have to get people to have a good time. The end goal is to create a scenario where the very real needs of people are being addressed, and the best way to do it is to get everything to work to your advantage:

• Great atmosphere
• Sharing tasks
• Being playful
• And being flexible enough to not push yourself out of the opportunity

To make a threesome possible, you really just need to forget “making the girls kiss” and you need to think “make the girls playful and having a good time”, because in the end, if the girls aren’t having fun under your watchful eye, then there is nothing making you the valuable one.

Conversely, if you are the reason everyone works together to have a great time, then without you, there is no chance to have fun!!!

To sum it all up into one tip, if you want to increase the likelihood of a threesome then don’t push girls on each other; instead, be the glue that makes being around each other a fun time. Forget “making it official”; make the combined force of fun more effective than when solo.

In the above example, the man couldn’t seduce either girl without resistance, so he used them both because he knew they were attracted to him and showed signs that they wouldn’t mind if it all ended the way it did.

The psychology behind this is actually really simple: you can make a direct proposition for a threesome, or you can omit the obligatory “deal sealer” and just allow fun and flirting to rollover into a good time. Don’t be too serious about threesomes; just let people go through with what they are having fun doing.

Threesomes just require that you work with what you have got and flirt like normal. If you keep your head and don’t do anything stupid, your opportunities will convert more than for the guys who are part of the faceless crowd.

So go ahead, and make yourself a conspirator to a good time, and threesomes won’t be a big deal! Just take it one step at a time and see what the girls RESPOND to, and you will do alright.

But more importantly, don’t lose your head! Without it, men don’t get “lucky”!

Cody Lyans